Understanding Self-Love

Self-love practices
Hi! I’m Inga

I am passionate about helping women transform their mindsets and embrace self-worth, overcome the barriers that hinder their ability to become their best versions, and establish loving relationships with their partners, themselves, and others.

The Truth About Self-Love: Why It’s the Key to Confidence and Inner Peace

The capacity of people to deceive themselves is astonishing. I like asking the simplest of questions: “Do you love yourself?” It always creates a surprising look: “Of course I do!”

And from the first look, she absolutely does. This beautiful young woman obviously takes good care of her looks, wears designer clothes and precious jewelry, and drives an expensive car…

Yet in a simple conversation, she makes tons of excuses for this and that, behaves extremely insecurely, and plays the part of “poor me,” secretly expecting me to understand her hardships and feel sorry for her.

Next, a multitude of flaws come to the surface, which, truth be told, are the ones that the expensive make-up, clothing, and weekly salon visits are supposed to conceal.

The Illusion of Self-Love

The conclusion is strict: low self-esteem, emotional instability, chaos in the thoughts, lack of confidence in tomorrow and her own strength, fear of being alone, variety of complexes, and an inability to create healthy relationships with other people (not even mentioning the opposite sex).

Of course, a rapid wave of resentment comes as a response: “What are you talking about? I can’t build relationships with other people???”

Taking a deep breath, we begin to dig deeper and analyze:

“My boyfriend is making me miserable and hurting my feelings.”

Because?

“I think he is not interested in a committed relationship with me and might leave me. I worry because of that.”

Because?

“I’m afraid to be left alone.”

Because?

“What if I will no longer be able to find love? I am afraid of that.”

Because?

“I am afraid that nobody else will be interested in me as a woman.”

Because?

“I don’t feel confident”.

Recognizing Signs of Low Self-Esteem

Here we go. So where is love in all this?

The fear of loneliness, the lack of interest from the opposite sex, the feeling of being betrayed and left behind, and the feeling of not being good enough and not lovable are all typical forms of codependency and have nothing to do with love whatsoever!

Instead of being a permanent victim of circumstances and other people, blaming them, attempting to change them, and trying to make someone treat you better, it is way more effective to look within and try to do something with YOURSELF.

Learn to love yourself, accept yourself as you are, and approve of yourself.

Learn to become more mindful of yourself, your feelings, and your needs.

Are You Living a Life of Self-Deception?

If you don’t love or accept yourself, if you are constantly afraid of losing what you have and holding on to it out of fear of losing it, you will never decide to create any changes in your life.

You will be lonely out of fear of loneliness because the vibrations of fear and the lack of self-confidence will push away all potential partners.

If you don’t love yourself first, your self-doubts and dissatisfaction with yourself will increasingly build up your closed-off and distant from others state of mind, which in turn will create a whole pile of emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual diseases.

Strategies for Building Genuine Self-Love

Remember: if you really love yourself, then you will never practice meanness, anger, or annoyance towards yourself.

You will not judge or criticize yourself for any reason; you will stop worrying, being afraid, and doubting yourself, your feelings, needs, and wants. You will stop eating harmful foods, making the excuses that this is what you love.

Your body is slowly dying because of this, and you are the one killing it.

You wouldn’t drink alcohol, killing your brain cells, and you would not smoke cigarettes, dirtying up your lungs.

You will sleep at least 7 hours every night and allow yourself to relax throughout the day.

You will respect yourself since love and respect are the same.

You will not allow negative thoughts to enter your mind, as they are toxic and get trapped in your body, causing illnesses.

You will stop lying or mistreating other people, as all this will boomerang back to you.

We are the ones creating the mirrors in our lives, so you will be mindful of your mind, body, and spirit to craft the reflection you desire.

Embracing Mindful Self-Acceptance

Love is the only cure for all diseases and the remedy for your inner emotional scars.

So, perhaps it is time to honestly accept that you don’t love yourself and finally do something about it?

Want to find inspiration that fuels your confidence to embrace every facet of your being? Download my free “Self-Love Amplified” eBook and journal.

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