Statistics indicate that many women struggle to build relationships with men. This happens despite their honest desire to create a strong, close-knit family, despite their attractive appearance and high intellectual level, and regardless of their sociability, friendliness, sexual knowledge, and economic sense.
Unfortunately, the number of women who cannot build long-term relationships with a man is growing, regardless of their age, appearance, income level, or education.
The answer to the question of “why is everything so unfair” cannot be simple, as each situation requires an individual approach to being resolved.
Generally, loneliness is often the result of misconceptions that distort women’s healthy and rational perceptions of the opposite sex and the nature of relationships. How is it possible to create a strong, harmonious, and happy family if the idea of it is far from reality and is rather covered with pink glitter from love novels and soap operas?
The situation worsens each year with solitude, idle expectations, and constant disappointments.
A single woman’s self-esteem gradually declines, and at some point in her life, she loses self-confidence. She is overtaken by fears and worries, and her social activity diminishes or, on the contrary, goes through the roof.
Phrases like “I don’t care,” “I feel great,” “I have many friends,” “I love myself,” “I travel,” “I work a lot,” etc., often mask deeper feelings of loneliness.
Yet, deep in her heart, a lonely woman almost always asks herself questions she cannot find answers to: “Why am I so unlucky in life? What is wrong with me?” This self-questioning can lead to self-blame and quiet self-loathing.
Some women, with their active and optimistic personalities, take practical steps to improve their situation. This is a courageous step, and it’s important to recognize the strength it takes to make these changes. Here are some common steps:
A woman who believes all problems lie within her may try to fix herself.
This could involve reading specific kinds of literature (often with a psychological focus), constant fitness training, visits to aestheticians, correction of her looks (up to plastic surgeries), and renewing her wardrobe.
While these actions can boost self-confidence, they do not necessarily resolve loneliness. I have met women with self-perfectionist tendencies who, despite model-like appearances, constantly find flaws and seek to “fix” them. Their closets are filled with designer clothes, yet they remain alone or in short-term, meaningless relationships.
Some women engage in active dating and create numerous connections and “friends” through dating websites, ads, friends-matchmakers, and social venues.
While I do not judge anyone’s choices, it is important to ask oneself honest questions about the purpose of these actions. Is it to find a lifelong partner or to validate one’s self-worth and feel needed?
In the second part of this blog, I will describe some categories of women who may struggle in love.
However, it’s important to remember that these categories are not definitive and do not determine your future. You have the power to change your circumstances and find happiness in love.
Reflect on these categories not to label yourself but to understand potential areas for growth and self-improvement.
You are not defined by your past or your struggles but by your resilience and your ability to learn and grow.
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