Learning to Love Yourself

Learning to love yourself unconditionally is one of the hardest things for us to do. Our minds become addicted to a certain way of thinking and feeling. So, if we are stuck in decades of negative self-talk, it will take effort, focus, and motivation to get out of it. However, by reading this book, you are already on the path to happiness, fulfillment, and self-love. A lifestyle of love, peace, security, and joy awaits you!

For some of us, the best and first step we can take in improving ourselves is forgiveness. I wrote a blog article about it a few weeks ago; you can find it here. The first thing to acknowledge is that we are all human and that the human condition hits each and every one of us. We will all go through loss, suffering, grief, and regret.

So, we can forgive ourselves for not being perfect—no one is! and try not to hold ourselves to standards of extreme perfection, especially when we live in a very imperfect world. When we make mistakes, we are doing the best we can with a limited amount of knowledge. All we can do is learn from our experiences and accept that everything happens for a reason.

Often, we get stuck in a loop of resentment toward people who have treated us unfairly or upset us. We feel anxious and annoyed and can’t stop thinking about where they have hurt us. A way to move past these negative emotions and back into a place of positivity is to choose to forgive them and visualize that you are sending love to them. By doing this, you will fill yourself with love, and the negative emotions that you associate with this person will start to fade away.

One of the meditations I’ve been using is the Metta Loving-Kindness meditation. It is easy, and it works. It can help any past or present relationship and can really help with getting over breakups, so I would like to encourage you to try this meditation as another tool to help you deal with relationship issues. You can find the detailed description and one of the ways to practice it here.

The world is a complicated place, and to go through a life that is well-lived, without regrets and traumas, is a very rare thing. The good news is that with time, we become stronger, and many of the world’s greatest minds and teachers have dedicated their lives to helping us alleviate our suffering. So, we can learn from them and implement their techniques and world views to live happier lives filled with joyous healing.

One of the most important secrets to having a happy relationship is sorting yourself out emotionally first. A healthy relationship is symbolically something two people take part in; we grow together. If you want your relationship to be a healthy one, it should start on a healthy foundation. A relationship based around requiring the other person to fulfill you is the foundation for co-dependency.

Ideally, you want to be happy with your own life before entering a relationship. When you depend on someone else to make you happy, you are likely to be disappointed. To become a more attractive lover, it is important to be happy with your own reality when you invite a partner into your world. When you are both satisfied, you can then expand your love, joy, and life together.

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